Screen Time – What’s too much?

How do I balance the need for technology with healthy limits?

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Dear Clem,

I’m a parent of children, my oldest is eight and my youngest is six. I’m growing increasingly worried about the amount of time they spend on screens. Between digital assignments, online classes, video games, and their favorite YouTube shows, it feels like they’re staring at a screen all the time. I try to set limits, but every time I do, it’s a battle. They get upset and argue that their friends have more screen time. It’s getting out of hand. How do I balance the need for technology with healthy limits?

Tech-exhausted Parent

Clem's Response

Woof, woof! You’re not alone in the struggle to moderate screen time. With technology playing such a big part in our lives, it can be challenging to find the right balance. On average, children ages eight-twelve in the United States spend four-six hours a day watching or using screens. Yet, the American Academy of Pediatrics and World Health Organization recommend that children ages six–ten limit their screen time to one and half hours per day.

While screen time can be fun and educational, too much beyond the recommended limit can interfere with a child’s mental and physical health. Studies show that screen time at the expense of person-to-person interactions can impair social skills such as empathy, cooperation and conflict resolution that come from face-to-face socializing. Likewise, when on screens, kids are more sedentary and spend less time being active often leading to weight gain. And screens, particularly before bedtime, can change a child’s sleep patterns.

It’s great that you are already opening the dialogue with your kids. Continue to let your children share why they value their screen time, and work together to find a compromise that feels fair but keeps their well-being in mind. Let them know that your goal isn’t to punish them, but to help them develop good habits.

It can also be helpful to model limiting your own screen time. If they see you prioritizing other activities, they’re more likely to follow your lead. A family screen plan is one method to establish the healthy priorities that are most meaningful for your family. Boston Children’s Wellness Lab offers a step-by-step approach. Part of this plan might be setting aside time for non-screen activities: family meals, reading, outdoor play, time with pets and other hobbies they enjoy. Creating a plan alongside your children can help generate greater buy-in, accountability, and open communication.

Many tail-wags to you,

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