Dear Worried Mom,
Woof, woof! Sounds like your pup’s been feeling a bit nervous at her new school—totally normal for shy kiddos, especially in a brand new environment! Many kids have trouble with anxiety heading into the new school year. But don’t worry, there are tail-wagging ways to help your daughter manage her fear and build self-confidence.
Start by checking-in with how she’s doing in a more casual way – perhaps while in the car or cooking a meal. Kids often say more when there is less pressure to “have a talk.” Continue to really listen to your daughter’s worries. It helps a lot to let her know it’s okay to feel nervous—it’s something even us dogs understand! Share stories about your own childhood anxieties or how other children often feel the same way when having to make new friends. This might help her to feel less alone.
Later, if she’s up for it, you can help strategize and develop a plan of how she’ll handle conversations at lunch or during free time at school. You can sit down and practice together at home. Discuss topics of interest that she might talk about with other kids. Practice makes paw-fect, after all! You may notice a gradual difference as you encourage her to take steps slightly beyond her comfort zone into new situations, with gentle coaching. A few barks of confidence go a long way!
If her anxiety doesn’t improve, or if you feel it’s affecting her well-being too much, you might want to speak together with a school counselor or a child psychologist. Establishing a strong emotional support system both in and out of school can provide additional comfort. You can browse the counseling options, and a list of private practice providers in our area by visiting juneaumentalhealth.org. There you will also find a matrix that outlines Youth Mental Health Services in Juneau. You’re already doing a pawsome job by being such a caring mom. With your continued love, reassurance and some time, she’ll likely settle in and thrive in her new school environment.
Bark wishes and wagging tails,